In 2017, I felt disconnected from a lifelong friend. We checked in occasionally through text, but they were mostly filled with platitudes and empty inquiries on both sides. They didn’t feel warm and fuzzy, but rather cold and distant. We finally made a time to meet in person. When I arrived to the restaurant, she had a gift for me (as she knew my love language), we hugged, but the energy still felt off. After some superficial catch-up, I dove right in. Clearing and releasing is important for me and I don’t waste any precious time when there are things to be said and feelings to be felt.
She used her new language of conscious communication and intellectually explained herself. “What I am hearing from you is…”, and I would tell my story and her response was the same again, “What I hear you say is…” I finally reacted “Stop that therapist/coach bullshit speak, talk to me like a friend” She was taken aback, as expected, and instantly put another wall up.
Finally at the table, we were sitting across face to face, so we had no choice to look into each other eyes. At one point as she was telling her story and I could feel her relax, feel her dip into her heart. I grabbed her hand and we both began to cry. I grabbed her other hand and we felt all the emotions that we hadn’t been able to articulate in text or email about our disconnection. We unraveled through the tears. We got to the core of our feelings, saw each others humanity and felt compassion for each others pain. Neither one of us came out right or wrong, good or bad, better or worse. But we did end up expressing our heart and our soul and return to the place of friendship that had been so meaningful throughout our life.
When I post on here or on any social media platform, I am speaking to your mind. I am using words that are processed, synthesized and ingested through the mind. If my words cause dissonance in your mind, it goes on alert to do what it does best, keep you safe. The mind feels threatened if the words are not aligned with what it knows best, what is familiar and the ‘fight, flight, freeze or fawn’ mechanism takes over. I know this well, I’ve been a fighter my whole life.
But my intention in the last few years has been to speak to and from the heart. To go beyond the mind, almost to losing it, so that the soul can shine through. That’s how I got to where I am today, a peddler of the parasympathetic paradigm, a heart-led healer, a creator in the New Earth. That’s why I won’t respond to anyone on my latest posts, because they are words, they are the language of the mind. They can be interpreted as hurtful, selfish, wrong, polarizing, political, controversial, rude, thoughtless, misinformed or whatever else comes up as the mind reads words.
This is also the reason that texts and emails and even zoom calls can be so triggering. You send a text and don’t see the other persons eyes, facial expression or body language when they read those words. In zoom, you can’t feel their energy, the heaviness or lightness that surrounds them when they hear you speak. Both sides may be left feeling a slight dissonance. It may cause a cascade of emotions or feelings within you that may lead you to make assumptions or tell stories about what they’re going through on the other side. And usually, if you’re human and had any bit of hurt in your life, those stories you tell are usually pretty defeating, isolating and may make you feel more separated from the ‘other’.
The language of the heart (or soul/spirit) is feelings and emotions. We’ve all experienced this first hand. That’s why in- person human connection is so damn important to health, healing and wellness. We have to be in each others presence to feel, understand, sympathize and hold space for another’s humanity. If one speaks to the soul, there is no argument, no discourse, no commentary to be intellectualized or discussed. It is one persons inner knowing connecting to another’s inner knowing and those two have been buddies for lifetimes. We all have.
Whatever the outcome of this moment in time, I know it will be aligned and in flow with what your soul has always known. I know that it will be filled with heart-led conversations, feelings-felt interactions, emotions-released expressions and deep soul connections. I know that it will lead humans to trust themselves, trust their brilliant bodies and most importantly, trust life.
I know The New Earth may sound like a statistically impossible utopia to so many minds, but I also know it is a 100% truth to each and every soul.
But most of all the new world on her way is full of super dope, bad ass fun with so much laughter our bellies and cheeks will hurt for days. Cause as you know and Oscar Wilde stated, “Life is too important to be taken seriously”.
Thank you for reading.